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Relationship Minute: A year into the pandemic, is it time to address your relationship?

With Covid optimism in the air with signs of positive change, many couples are finally addressing the issues that have gone subterranean during this pandemic.  Some relationships have benefitted from the additional time together but many have been pulled tight, especially if there were unresolved issues between the couple before.  Anxiety can strain an already tense relationship.  For some couples, holding things...

Relationship Minute: Identify your wounds

Your relationship vulnerabilities have a tendency to be a reflection of prior experiences that are hardwired into your brain.  These wounds can be healed and your brain rewired (great news) but the first step is to be clear about what your issues are, when in an intimate relationship with another person.  Ideally, they have an idea of what they carry too. In order to have the ideal relationship, you need to be...

Relationship Minute: Seek happiness from within or from your marriage or relationship?

If you are frustrated because your marriage or relationship isn’t “making” you happy you might want to re-think that.  There is a vast difference between being happy with your relationship rather than seeking happiness from your relationship.  What is important is a sense of safety and trust.  This is a condition that’s important for you and your partner to feel. The question isn’t,...

Relationship Minute: Avoid These Four Negative Communication Patterns

It can be easier said than done to eliminate these damaging habits in your relationship.  Many of us have learned problematic communication patterns in our families of origin or struggle with issues around trust in relationships that leading to knee-jerk, unhelpful responses.  If you make attempts to follow Dr. Gottman’s suggestions but still find yourself in a negative cycle, I can help you dig deeper into...

Relationship Minute: Your mistakes don’t need to mean the end of your relationship.

If you’ve messed up, the relationship is worth saving and your partner is open to allowing for positive change, you’re off to a good start.  But you have some work to do. To begin with, you and your partner should hone your communication skills to allow for the kind of dialogue that will be necessary to facilitate repair and change.  Your job is to fully own your part in what’s happened.  Your...

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