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Relationship Minute: Where does relationship success begin?

There are many facets of healthy relationships, elements of strong foundation ideally resting underneath a couple.  Trust, security, emotional safety and goodRelationship Minute communication are just a few.

But where does relationship success truly begin?

Don’t even bother looking towards your partner.  Hold up a mirror to yourself because that’s where relationship success starts.

In order to have the best relationship you need to be the best version of yourself first.

As yourself the following:

  • Do I have any old wounds blocking me from emotional and or relationship health?
  • Am I carrying issues around trust, sense of self or other insecurities that I’m looking to another to fix?
  • Do I have work to do?

If you are in a relationship currently that is struggling and you answered “yes” to any of the above, ideally, you work together as a couple to understand your dynamic together first.  Once you understand your role, begin the work on your own.

I help couples understand each of their roles in their relationship dysfunction and create a path towards reconnection.


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